Responding effectively to negative attention-seeking behavior involves a combination of reinforcing positive behaviors and strategically ignoring negative ones. The goal is to reduce the unwanted behavior while encouraging healthier ways of seeking attention.
According to Jessica Kohek, an instructor therapist for children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, the key is to praise appropriate ways of asking for attention, and ignore all inappropriate forms of attention-seeking. (Kohek, 2019)
Strategies for Addressing Negative Attention-Seeking Behavior
Here's a breakdown of how to implement this approach:
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Identify the Behavior: Clearly define what constitutes negative attention-seeking behavior in the given context. Examples may include:
- Throwing tantrums
- Making disruptive noises
- Engaging in rule-breaking activities
- Constant interrupting
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Ignore the Negative Behavior: This can be difficult, but it's crucial. Ignoring means not giving the behavior any attention, including:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Not responding verbally
- Not reacting emotionally
- Ensuring the individual doesn't achieve the desired outcome (attention) from the negative behavior.
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Praise Positive Alternatives: Actively look for opportunities to praise and reinforce positive behaviors. This means providing attention and positive feedback when the individual:
- Asks for attention appropriately
- Engages in positive social interactions
- Follows instructions
- Exhibits self-control
For instance, if a child typically interrupts conversations but then waits patiently for a break to speak, immediately acknowledge and praise their patience.
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Consistency is Key: The effectiveness of this approach relies on consistent application. Everyone involved should follow the same strategies.
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Teach Alternative Skills: Help the individual learn more appropriate ways to get attention, such as:
- Teaching them how to politely request attention ("Excuse me, can I talk to you for a moment?")
- Role-playing social interactions
- Helping them understand how their behavior impacts others.
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Be Patient: Changing behavior takes time and consistency. Don't get discouraged if you don't see immediate results.
By consistently ignoring negative attention-seeking behaviors and reinforcing positive alternatives, you can help the individual learn healthier and more effective ways to get the attention they crave.
