Children typically begin talking to themselves around the age of 2 or 3.
This self-talk is a normal and important part of their development. It's a way for them to process their thoughts, plan actions, and regulate their emotions. While it's most prevalent in early childhood, often diminishing by age 5, self-talk continues to some extent throughout life. It manifests differently as we age, often becoming internalized (thinking to ourselves) rather than spoken aloud.
Here's a breakdown:
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Ages 2-3: Children begin engaging in observable self-talk. This is when they might narrate their actions while playing ("I'm building a tower! Now I need a red block.").
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Ages 3-5: Self-talk becomes more complex and is used for problem-solving and self-guidance. ("If I put this here, it will fall. I need to make it stronger.").
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Beyond Age 5: Self-talk often becomes internalized as inner dialogue or thought. However, talking aloud to oneself is still common, especially during times of stress, problem-solving, or when alone.
It's important to remember that self-talk is not necessarily a sign of mental illness. In fact, studies show that it can be beneficial for cognitive function and emotional regulation. Even adults engage in self-talk, often without realizing it, as a way to clarify thoughts and make decisions.
