Tickling can be okay for kids, but it depends on the context and, most importantly, the child's consent.
While tickling is sometimes seen as a sweet and tender moment, it's crucial to understand that not all tickling experiences are positive. Dr. Fridlund suggests that when done right, tickling can be a bonding experience. However, to ensure it remains fun and safe, it must be brief, light, playful, and consensual, with frequent pauses to check in with the child.
Here's a breakdown of considerations:
- Consent is Key: The most important factor is whether the child enjoys being tickled. If they are laughing genuinely and engaging, it's likely okay. If they are crying, squirming, or asking you to stop, it is not okay.
- Power Dynamic: Tickling can sometimes be a demonstration of power, and children may laugh or react in certain ways even if they don't genuinely enjoy it to appease the adult.
- Intensity: Light, playful tickling is generally more appropriate than aggressive or prolonged tickling.
- Individual Differences: Some children are simply more sensitive to touch or less tolerant of tickling than others. Respect individual preferences.
- Checking In: Regularly ask the child if they are enjoying it and be prepared to stop immediately if they say no or show signs of discomfort.
In summary, tickling can be a fun and bonding experience for kids when done with consent, sensitivity, and respect for their boundaries. Always prioritize the child's comfort and enjoyment.
