Understanding the difference between good and bad touch is essential for boys to stay safe and feel secure. It's about recognizing touches that are caring and respectful versus those that are harmful or uncomfortable.
Good Touch: Feelings of Safety and Care
Good touch generally makes a boy feel safe, loved, and cared for. These touches are appropriate and respectful.
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Examples of Good Touch:
- A gentle pat on the head.
- A friendly pat on the back.
- A warm hug from a family member.
- High-fives with friends.
- A supportive hand on the shoulder.
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Key Characteristics of Good Touch:
- It feels comfortable and pleasant.
- It's given with kindness and respect.
- It usually involves parts of the body that are not private.
- It's something you're okay with, and you can say 'yes' to.
Bad Touch: Uncomfortable and Harmful
Bad touch can be confusing and often makes a boy feel uncomfortable, scared, or hurt. It can involve physical harm or touching private areas.
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Examples of Bad Touch:
- Pinching or hitting.
- Touching private areas like genitals, buttocks, or chest (unless for hygiene or a doctor's visit with a parent present).
- Any touch that makes you feel uneasy or scared.
- Someone forcing you to hug or kiss them when you don't want to.
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Key Characteristics of Bad Touch:
- It feels uncomfortable, scary, or confusing.
- It can hurt your body or your feelings.
- It might be something that feels secret or hidden.
- It's something you have the right to say 'no' to.
It's Okay to Say No
It's crucial for boys to know that it is always okay to say 'no' to any touch that they don't like, even if it's from a family member or friend. If a touch feels wrong, they have the right to stop it and tell a trusted adult.
Summary
| Touch Type | Feeling | Body Areas | Respect | Saying No |
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| Good Touch | Safe, Loved | Non-private areas | Yes | Optional |
| Bad Touch | Uncomfortable, Scared, Hurt | Private areas, or any area against will | No | Mandatory |
By understanding the difference between good and bad touch, boys can protect themselves and seek help when they need it. The core message is that you have control over your body and your feelings.
