A child's popularity stems from a combination of outgoingness, assertiveness, and a blend of prosocial and/or aggressive behaviors.
Factors Contributing to Popularity
Popularity isn't a singular trait, but rather a collection of behaviors and characteristics. Here's a breakdown of what makes a child popular:
- Outgoingness: Popular children are often sociable and enjoy interacting with their peers.
- Assertiveness: They are able to stand up for themselves and express their opinions.
- Prosocial Behavior: This includes being helpful, kind, and considerate of others. This can significantly contribute to positive peer relationships.
- Aggressive Behavior: Surprisingly, sometimes children can gain popularity by being aggressive, though this type of popularity might be short-lived and based on fear rather than genuine liking. As indicated in research, popular children aren't withdrawn; they actively engage with others, whether positively or aggressively (29-Apr-2020).
- Absence of Withdrawal: Popular children aren't withdrawn; they actively engage with others.
The Role of Different Behaviors
The interplay between prosocial and aggressive behaviors can define different types of popularity. Some children are liked for their kindness and helpfulness, while others might be popular due to their dominance and influence.
Key Takeaway
While some may think being nice is the only key to popularity, it's more complex. A combination of being social, assertive, and even, in some cases, a bit aggressive, can make a child popular.
