Girls need their dad the most during early adolescence.
The Critical Time: Early Adolescence
According to Will Glennon, publisher of Conari Press, who interviewed hundreds of dads for his book "Fathering," early adolescence is "exactly the moment when girls need Dad the most." This finding highlights a critical period in a girl's development where a father's presence and support are paramount. It's also notable that, according to Glennon, this is often the exact time when fathers tend to step back, even those who were highly involved in their daughters' younger years.
Why is this period so important?
Early adolescence is a time of significant change for girls. They are experiencing:
- Physical changes: Puberty brings rapid physical development, which can be confusing and emotionally challenging.
- Emotional changes: Hormonal fluctuations contribute to mood swings and heightened sensitivity.
- Social challenges: Navigating peer relationships and social expectations can be complex and stressful.
- Identity formation: Girls begin to explore who they are and where they fit in the world.
During this period, a father's love, support, and guidance can provide stability, security, and a positive male influence, helping them navigate these changes with confidence and self-esteem.
How can dads stay involved?
It's vital for fathers to remain engaged in their daughters' lives during early adolescence. Here are some practical ways to do so:
- Stay present: Make time for one-on-one activities and conversations.
- Listen actively: Create a safe space for your daughter to share her thoughts and feelings without judgment.
- Offer encouragement: Support her interests and efforts, celebrating her achievements and providing comfort during setbacks.
- Provide positive male role modeling: Show respect for women and demonstrate healthy relationships.
- Be a stable figure: Offer consistency and reliability amidst the changes she is experiencing.
By staying actively involved and supportive, fathers can make a profound and lasting positive impact during this critical time.
