The intense feeling of romantic love typically lasts between 18 months to three years, according to psychologists.
Understanding Romantic Love
While the initial stages of a relationship are often marked by intense passion and infatuation, this level of romantic fervor is not sustainable in the long run. This doesn't mean that love ends, but rather, that it transitions into a different form.
Stages of Love
| Stage | Duration | Characteristics |
|---|---|---|
| Romantic Love | 18 months - 3 years | Intense passion, infatuation, idealization of partner. |
| Companionate Love | Ongoing | Deep affection, intimacy, commitment, trust. |
Factors Affecting the Transition
- Individual differences: Personal experiences and expectations influence how individuals experience and transition through the stages of love.
- Communication: Open and honest communication helps to navigate the change in romantic intensity.
- Effort: Maintaining a strong and loving relationship requires effort, understanding, and nurturing.
The Longevity of Love After Intense Romance
Interestingly, despite the short lifespan of intense romantic love, many couples report being deeply in love after many years. In one study, participants who had been married for an average of 21 years maintained that they were still "wildly in love". This demonstrates that love can evolve and deepen over time, beyond the initial romantic phase, into a more stable, fulfilling companionate love.
Companionate Love
Companionate love is characterized by:
- Strong affection
- Intimacy
- Trust
- Commitment
It is this form of love that often sustains long-term relationships.
Key Takeaway
While the intense dizzying feelings of romantic love may only last up to three years, love itself doesn't have to end. Relationships can transition to companionate love, which is characterized by deep affection, trust, and commitment, sustaining couples for many years.
