Husband and wife should ideally sleep together in the same bed, in a bedroom situated in the southwest corner of the house, according to Vastu Shastra principles. This placement is believed to promote relationship stability and longevity. The head of the bed should be oriented towards either south or east.
However, there are exceptions and individual preferences to consider:
Factors Influencing Sleeping Arrangements
- Personal Preferences: Some couples prefer sleeping in separate beds or rooms due to differing sleep schedules, snoring, or other sleep-related issues. This is perfectly acceptable and shouldn't be viewed negatively. (See Reddit threads discussing separate sleeping arrangements: https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/tub96f/does_anyone_sleep_in_a_different_bedroom_than/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/lfe7gl/how_many_married_couples_do_not_sleep_in_the_same/).
- Postpartum Recovery: Following childbirth, some couples may temporarily sleep separately to allow the mother adequate rest and recovery. (See Quora thread: https://husbandsandwives.quora.com/After-childbirth-why-are-a-husband-and-wife-not-allowed-to-sleep-together)
- Specific Circumstances: In some cases, such as relationship difficulties, couples might sleep apart. The reasons are complex and individual.
- Vastu Shastra: This ancient Indian system of architecture suggests that the southwest corner is best for the bedroom due to its purported positive energy. However, this is a matter of belief and not scientifically proven. (See https://www.magicbricks.com/blog/sleeping-direction-for-couples/117973.html)
Which Side of the Bed?
While there's no definitive answer regarding which side of the bed each spouse should occupy, anecdotal evidence suggests many couples naturally settle into a sleeping pattern without explicit discussion. (See Quora thread: https://www.quora.com/As-a-married-person-which-side-of-the-bed-do-you-sleep-on-and-how-did-you-decide-Every-man-I-know-sleeps-on-the-left-side-and-it-was-never-discussed-but-happened-the-first-time-they-slept-together-naturally-Do-all).
Ultimately, the best sleeping arrangement for a husband and wife is one that prioritizes their comfort, health, and mutual happiness.
