A "non-gender child" is a child whose gender identity does not conform to the traditional binary of male or female. This isn't about a child's biological sex assigned at birth, but rather their internal sense of self. Many terms describe this, including non-binary, genderqueer, agender, and more. These children may identify with neither gender, both genders, or a gender that exists outside of the male/female dichotomy. Importantly, a child's gender identity is distinct from their sex assigned at birth.
Understanding Non-Binary Identities
Non-binary is an umbrella term encompassing a wide range of gender identities that fall outside the male/female binary. Some examples include:
- Agender: Lacking a gender identity.
- Bigender: Identifying with two genders.
- Demi-gender: Partially identifying with a gender.
The term "non-gender child" itself might be considered less precise than specifying the child's particular gender identity if known. While a parent might use "non-gender" informally, the more accurate approach is to use the child's self-identified term or, if unsure, to use neutral language. For instance, instead of assuming a child's gender, one could simply address the child by their name.
Parenting a Non-Binary Child
Raising a non-binary child involves supporting their self-discovery and affirmation. This includes:
- Using their chosen name and pronouns: This demonstrates respect and validation of their identity.
- Educating family and friends: This helps create a supportive and understanding environment.
- Seeking professional support: Therapists specializing in gender identity can provide guidance and support for both the child and parents.
Remember that a child's exploration of their gender identity is a personal journey. Parents play a crucial role in providing a safe and accepting environment for that journey.
Common Misconceptions
It's vital to dispel common misconceptions:
- Gender identity is not a phase: For many children, their non-binary identity is a consistent and enduring part of who they are.
- Gender identity is separate from sexual orientation: Non-binary people can have a wide range of sexual orientations.
- Gender expression does not always align with gender identity: How someone presents themselves (clothing, mannerisms) is independent of their internal sense of gender.
Resources like PFLAG, The Trevor Project, and Gender Spectrum offer support and information for families with non-binary children.
