Being a good parent to a non-binary child involves creating a supportive and affirming environment. Here's how you can do it, based on advice from a parent who has been there:
Creating a Supportive Environment
| Action | Description |
|---|---|
| Hug your child | Physical affection is a vital way to show love and support. |
| Encourage conversation | Create open lines of communication, but don't force your child to talk if they're not ready. |
| Listen More than Talk | Prioritize active listening over giving advice. Focus on understanding your child’s perspective. |
| Ask (Respectful) Questions | When appropriate, ask questions to better understand your child's identity and experiences. Avoid intrusive or judgmental inquiries. |
| Educate Yourself | Learn about non-binary identities, gender diversity, and related topics. This can involve reading articles, watching documentaries, or consulting with LGBTQ+ organizations. |
| Share Your Pronouns | Make your own pronouns known to model acceptance of gender identity and make your child feel more comfortable. |
| Connect with Other Parents | Seek out other parents of non-binary children for shared experiences and support. |
| Be Kind to Yourself | Parenting is a journey, so be patient and understanding with yourself. |
Practical Insights:
- Respect their chosen name and pronouns: Using your child’s affirmed name and pronouns consistently is crucial. Correct yourself gently if you make a mistake, and encourage other family members to do the same.
- Advocate for your child: If your child faces discrimination or misunderstanding in school or other social settings, be ready to advocate for their needs.
- Celebrate their identity: Affirm their identity through small gestures like using their correct name and pronouns, purchasing clothing they feel comfortable in, or creating a safe space in the home.
- Be open to change: Your child's understanding of their identity may evolve over time, so continue to stay open and adaptable.
- Patience is key: It may take time for you, and others around them to understand. Be patient and understanding through the process.
- Find LGBTQ+ resources: Engage with your community and resources designed to support parents of LGBTQ+ children.
By taking these steps, you can show your non-binary child that you love, accept, and support them unconditionally. This creates a foundation for their well-being and allows them to thrive. Remember, consistent effort and genuine love will have a big impact.
