Some people derive satisfaction from pain, often describing it as a source of relief or a feeling of being alive.
Here's a more in-depth look at the potential reasons:
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Feeling Alive and Real: For some, particularly those who struggle with feelings of emptiness, dissociation, or alienation, self-inflicted pain provides a sense of grounding and reality. The physical sensation confirms their existence in a tangible way. As quoted, "the sight of their own blood makes them feel alive and real, and the anguish of feeling non-existent or alienated from sensation is profoundly worse than any temporary physical discomfort." This temporary physical discomfort is preferable to the overwhelming feeling of not existing.
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Emotional Release: Pain can act as a release valve for intense emotional distress. When individuals struggle to process or express their emotions in healthy ways, physical pain may become a substitute or outlet for pent-up feelings like anger, sadness, or anxiety.
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Control and Mastery: In situations where people feel powerless or overwhelmed, inflicting pain on themselves can provide a sense of control. They dictate the pain, its intensity, and its duration, which can be empowering in its own way.
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Self-Punishment: Some individuals may engage in self-harm as a form of punishment for perceived wrongdoings or feelings of worthlessness. The pain serves as a way to atone for these feelings.
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Seeking Attention (Less Common): While not the primary motivator, in some cases, individuals may inflict pain on themselves to elicit attention or support from others. However, this is typically a less common underlying factor.
It is crucial to note that engaging in self-harm is often a sign of underlying emotional distress and should not be dismissed or judged. If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor is highly recommended.
