Telling your girlfriend you'd prefer she wax her mustache requires sensitivity and a direct, yet kind, approach.
Here's a breakdown of how to navigate this potentially delicate conversation:
Approach with Empathy and Honesty
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Don't bring it up casually or in front of others. Select a private, relaxed setting where you both feel comfortable.
- Frame It Gently: Start by expressing your affection and appreciation for her. For instance, "I love you and I'm attracted to you, and I value your confidence."
- Be Honest About Your Feelings: Explain why you're bringing it up. You could say, "I've noticed your mustache, and to be honest, I find it a little distracting."
- Focus on "I" Statements: Avoid accusatory language. Instead of saying, "You need to do something about your mustache," try, "I think you would look even more beautiful if you considered removing it."
- Offer a Suggestion, Not a Demand: Present waxing as an option rather than an ultimatum.
Example Conversation
Here's a possible script you could adapt:
"Honey, can we talk about something? I love you so much and I think you're beautiful. I've been wanting to mention something, and it's a bit sensitive, so please know I'm saying this because I care about you and I'm attracted to you. I've noticed the hair above your lip, and I find it a little distracting. I was wondering if you've ever considered waxing it? I personally think you’d look incredible if you did. It’s just my opinion, of course, and I’ll always love you no matter what you choose to do."
Prepare for Her Reaction
- Be Prepared for Hurt Feelings: She might be embarrassed, insecure, or angry. Listen patiently and validate her feelings.
- Be Prepared to Compromise: She might not want to wax, and you need to respect her decision. Your feelings are valid, but so are hers.
- Offer to Help: If she's open to the idea, offer to go with her for her first appointment, buy her waxing supplies, or help her research different hair removal methods.
- Turn the tables: As the short answer mentions, ask if there's anything she'd like you to address about your physical attributes. This shows you're willing to make changes too and are open to feedback.
Respect Her Decision
Ultimately, the choice is hers. If she's not comfortable with waxing, you need to respect her decision. Continually pressuring her will likely damage your relationship.
