Sexting becomes "too much" when it negatively impacts your relationship, even if it seems to boost your sex life.
While sexting is a common practice in modern relationships, quantity doesn't always equate to quality. New research suggests that excessive sexting can lead to relationship problems.
Here's a breakdown of when sexting might be excessive:
- Negative Impact on Relationship Quality: If increased sexting correlates with increased arguments, insecurity, or dissatisfaction in the relationship, it's likely become excessive.
- Feeling Pressured: If one partner feels pressured to engage in sexting more frequently than they are comfortable with, this creates an imbalance and potential resentment.
- Neglecting Other Forms of Intimacy: Sexting shouldn't replace other important aspects of intimacy, such as emotional connection, physical touch, and quality time spent together. If these areas are suffering, the sexting might be overemphasized.
- Unrealistic Expectations: Excessive sexting can create unrealistic expectations about sex and performance, potentially leading to disappointment or anxiety.
- Impact on Self-Esteem: If sexting becomes a primary source of validation, it can negatively impact self-esteem and create dependence on external approval.
Example:
Imagine a couple who initially enjoyed sexting, but one partner begins initiating it constantly throughout the day. The other partner, feeling overwhelmed and distracted at work, starts to resent these constant requests. This scenario illustrates how initially enjoyable sexting can become "too much" and detrimental to the relationship.
In summary, the key indicator of "too much" sexting is its effect on the overall health and happiness of the relationship. Open communication and mutual comfort levels are essential in determining what is appropriate for each couple.
