Open and honest communication is key. Avoid pressure; respect her autonomy. Focus on expressing your preference gently and respectfully, acknowledging her feelings and right to choose.
Approaching the Conversation
Instead of demanding or pressuring your wife, frame your request as a personal preference expressed with love and consideration. Here’s how:
- Start with appreciation: Begin by affirming your love and appreciation for her, regardless of her pubic hair. For example, "Honey, I love you just the way you are, but I've been thinking..."
- Express your desire: Clearly, but gently, state your preference. Examples include:
- "I've been fantasizing about what you'd look like shaved, and I'd love to experience that with you."
- "I personally find a shaved or trimmed look more appealing, and I was wondering if you'd be willing to try it sometime."
- "No pressure at all, but if you're willing, I would love to know what you would look like shaved. I love you just the way you are, but I do fantasize about this, and would appreciate your trying it once." (This example is taken directly from a reference.)
- Offer compromise: Be prepared to compromise. If she’s unwilling to completely shave, suggest a trim instead. She might be more open to that.
- Respect her decision: If she declines, respect her choice. Do not continue to pressure or nag her. Her body, her choice.
Addressing Potential Concerns
Your wife might have concerns about pain, irritation, or societal expectations. Address these concerns with sensitivity:
- Pain: Reassure her that many women find shaving relatively painless, and there are plenty of products (like shaving cream and lotions) that can minimize discomfort.
- Irritation: Explain that proper shaving techniques and aftercare can prevent irritation.
- Societal Expectations: Emphasize that this is purely a matter of personal preference, not about conforming to any external pressure.
Alternative Approaches
If direct conversation feels uncomfortable, consider these options:
- Indirect suggestion: Subtly hint at your preference through comments about others or by showing her pictures (with consent and explanation). This is a risky strategy and might not be received well.
- Offer to help: If she agrees to try it, offer to help with the process. This shows your support and understanding. (As suggested in a reference: "If it's a good trim you speak of, tell her you'd be happy to do it, and use a playful name for her pubic hair.")
Conclusion
Remember, this conversation is about mutual respect and understanding. Your goal should be to communicate your preference without jeopardizing your relationship. Always prioritize her comfort and feelings.
