Demisexuality is a sexual orientation where someone only experiences sexual attraction to people with whom they have formed a strong emotional connection.
In more detail, here's a breakdown:
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Lack of Primary Sexual Attraction: Demisexuals don't experience initial sexual attraction based on superficial characteristics like appearance, smell, or a brief encounter. This is the key differentiating factor.
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Emotional Connection is Crucial: A deep emotional bond is a prerequisite for sexual attraction to develop. This connection can be romantic, platonic, or another form of close relationship.
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Attraction is Still Sexual: Once the emotional connection is established, demisexuals can experience sexual attraction that is similar to how someone who isn't demisexual experiences it.
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It's a Spectrum: Like all sexual orientations, demisexuality exists on a spectrum. The intensity and nature of the emotional connection required can vary from person to person.
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Not a Choice: Demisexuality is not a conscious choice. It's an inherent part of a person's sexual orientation.
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Distinction from Celibacy: Demisexuality is different from celibacy (choosing not to engage in sexual activity) and asexuality (not experiencing sexual attraction). Demisexuals can experience sexual attraction, but only under specific circumstances.
Essentially, demisexuality centers on the idea that for a demisexual person, the mind comes before the body when it comes to sexual attraction. Emotional intimacy is the key that unlocks sexual desire.
