Your wife may have difficulty sleeping without you because she has become accustomed to the physical and psychological comfort of sleeping alongside you.
The Role of Oxytocin
One key factor is the release of oxytocin, a hormone that promotes feelings of:
- Love
- Relaxation
- Stress reduction
When partners regularly sleep together, the body associates these comforting effects of oxytocin with bedtime. (Reference Provided) Therefore, when you're not there, her body might miss the expected oxytocin release, making it harder for her to relax and fall asleep.
Psychological Dependence
Beyond the hormonal aspect, sleeping next to someone for an extended period can create a sense of security and emotional comfort. Your presence might act as a:
- Security blanket
- Source of stability
What Can Help?
If your wife is struggling to sleep alone, here are some suggestions:
- Establish a relaxing bedtime routine: This could include reading, taking a warm bath, or listening to calming music.
- Create a comfortable sleep environment: Ensure the bedroom is dark, quiet, and cool.
- Consider a weighted blanket: This can mimic the feeling of being held or cuddled.
- Talk to a therapist: If anxiety or emotional distress are contributing factors, therapy can be beneficial.
